By Steve Moran

A better title might be, “You Can’t Be Happy All the Time.”

Perhaps the single worst aspect of social media, from Instagram to Facebook, is posts of perfection. Perfect families, new jobs, fantastic vacations to places that most people can only dream of.

There is a second set of posts that are actually even worse, because they promise that if you just do something, buy something, think about something — or in some cases stop doing something — you will have a life of bliss.

I Confess …

I confess that even when things are good in my life, I am more than a little jealous of the rest of you who are living all those perfect lives.

Here is what it is like to be me, as I write this. I had an amazing day yesterday at church. I had an 11-year-old kid who was getting baptized that day come and ask me to be his spiritual mentor for the next 12 months. This is a pastor’s kid who is connected to some really big spiritual leaders. I am simply the guy who teaches his class once a week. He ran through a list of amazing choices. I was almost an afterthought, but I was the right one.

Then another person came up to me and thanked me for sending him a message about a Facebook post I commented on.

There were three more things that were really joyful.

But … but … but …

I still have some stuff that I am really struggling with right now, and so in spite of all those profoundly joyful moments, I am jealous of all you happy folks, because, while all of you are at 8 or 9 or 10 on the happy scale, I am maybe a 3 or 4. And I am stuck.

A few days ago, I came across this Jay Shetty meme, and it really hit home:

This Is Truth

I know enough of you who only post perfect life stuff to know that you, just like me, have good days and bad days.

It might serve us all to be more real about how we are doing when we are not doing so good. Here is the truth:

  • There are days when circumstances would tell us we should be happy but we are not.
  • There are days when things are really terrible and yet we feel happy.
  • We don’t have nearly as much control over how happy we are each day.
  • Happy days won’t last.
  • Unhappy days won’t last.
  • The same is true for anxious days, lack of confidence days, “feeling like a failure” days, and imposter syndrome days.
  • We need too, as the post suggests, accept that these days happen.

I would add to this that we even need to embrace these down days, because they make the good days much richer and more real.

I would like to offer that those of you who only post happy stuff, should once in a while let us take a look at the real you. It will help others more than you know.